by Kyla Camille |
Who among the millennials haven’t watched the Pinoy movie One More Chance?
I bet at least 50% have.
It has come to a point that One More Chance has become some sort of a ‘right-of-passage’ for teenagers as a reference for future break-ups. It has become so popular among generations that it has produced a cult following. Many say it’s mainly because of the many lessons it has taught those who have watched the movie.
Here are nine reasons why One More Chance is a so called great teacher. Read on…
- It relates to the one who leaves.
“I already gave five years of my life, Poy. It’s about time you give me what I want.” – Basha
“But you’re asking for too much. Ang hinihiling mo, mawala ka sa buhay ko.” – Popoy
In a relationship, no matter how long or short it has been that you have been together, it comes to a point where one of you asks for SPACE. Yes, the ever-so popular “space” that one needs in times of confusion. In this case, if you are the one who blows the candle out, then you probably know how Basha felt when she left. It may be for the reason that you want to find yourself on your own, you want to fix your life before continuing a genuine relationship with the one, you start to see your partner as an extra baggage, or you just feel like the both of you are just not for each other.
Whatever reason you have, you know it’s for the best. Basha thought so too.
If one gives up on the relationship, somebody is definitely left behind the shut door. If you are this person, then consider Popoy as your inner character – broken, scared, devastated, and helpless. It’s the worst feeling when somebody ditches you because something did not go very smoothly on one or two occasions. To make it even worse, the person who you thought would go through hell with you, decides to continue the journey without you.
Believe me, Popoy knows exactly how you feel.
- It reminds you that there is always hope.
“Hindi ba’t ikaw rin ang nagsabi sakin na kaya tayo iniiwan ng mga taong mahal natin kasi baka may bagong darating na mas okay. Na mas mamahalin tayo. Yung taong ‘di tayo sasaktan at papaaasahin. Yung nag-iisang taong magtatama ng mali sa buhay natin ng lahat ng mali sa buhay mo.” – Popoy
You are hurting and always dying a little bit inside when you see things or go to places that remind you of your partner. But, through the process of moving on, you still hang on to that thin thread of hope that life offers you. Even when you are silently breaking inside, you know that one day, someone will pick you up and shape you better than you were first molded. Somebody, in this vast earth, has a bigger heart to share with you and make you believe in love again.
- It ignites the spark between past lovers (Who are still in love with one another).
“Kasi ang totoo, umaasa pa rin akong sabihin mo na sana ako pa rin. Ako na lang. Ako na lang ulit.” – Basha
You may be quoted and named as the heartbreaker who chose to go on a solo flight. But as you hear Basha’s classic line, it pierces through you. It lets you realize how fool of a person you are to let go of the only person you saw standing next to you in front of the altar. Maybe you have seen this once, supported by an ugly cry or maybe you have watched this a hundred times and it still hurts. So, is it too late now? Well, there is only one way to find out, love.
- It strengthens your weak heart.
Popoy: “She loved me at my worst, you had me at my best at binalewala mo lang lahat ‘yun.”
Basha: “Popoy, ‘yun ba talaga ang tingin mo? I just made a choice!”
Popoy: “And you chose to break my heart.”
You might be in one of the hardest stages of your life, but as you cross out one day after the other on the calendar, you know that you are a day closer to being better. It may be a long way ahead, but you believe you’ll get there. Just like Popoy who is still madly in love with Basha, he stands firm by his decision of letting himself love and be loved again. Memories hurt, but know that you can always create more wonderful ones with the person who lets you to be completely you and who loves you more than the love you give.
- It relates to a rebound person.
Trish: “Mahal mo ba ako?”
Popoy: “Trish, alam mong mahal kita.”
T: “Mahal mo ba siya?”
P: “Hindi ko kayang makita kang nasasaktan.”
T: “Para kung masaktan man ako, hindi mo makita. Mahal mo pa ba siya?”
P: “I’m so sorry.”
What’s harder than being the quitter and the dumped? It’s being the ultimate catcher of the heartbreak, or more known as the “rebound” of a failed relationship. Trish, here, relates to your situation and she knows it’s not easy. You were more than willing to repair a damaged heart as you cross your fingers, wishing that your new love doesn’t wake up one day and realize that s/he is still in love with the past.
Get up, sunshine. You will be fine and you deserve the love that doesn’t come with expiration dates.
- It allows your heart to have a space for healing.
“Hindi mo alam kung gaano ko gusto sabihin sayo na, sana tayo nalang. Sana tayo nalang ulit.” – Popoy
Let’s face it. Not all breakups last forever, but being able to be together again may take a while. Popoy teaches you that time allows healing and that the process is necessary for love to be better for both sides. You need to allow yourself to heal the wounds, and let the bruised past become a beautiful scar. Take time to breathe in all the flaws and exhale the expectations. Love is never perfect, but two people who are truly in love can make it spectacular.
- It calls for acceptance and forgiveness.
“No. I’m sorry.. I’m sorry for not saying sorry before nung nasaktan kita. Noon kasing naghiwalay tayo, ang inisip ko, sarili ko lang. Yung nararamdaman ko lang. Yung gusto ko lang. I’m sorry, Bash nagging madamot ako. Hindi ko inintindi na kailangan mo ding hanapin yung Basha na nawala nung minahal mo ako.” – Popoy
Before you can embrace the fresh beginning of a scarred love, you have to accept each other’s faults and learn the art of forgiveness. Love is a lot better when you let go of all the grudges and things that may have caused you pain. Be ready to fully accept what has changed over time, the things that cannot be changed, and all the others that are yet to change. Life is never constant, but true love will always be.
So stop dwelling on the things that shattered your walls, and start focusing on the things that will build you a stronger base.
- It makes you believe in second chances.
Popoy and Basha’s love story has probably touched thousands of hearts. Your story might not be like theirs, but one day, know that someone will make you realize that taking chances is worth the leap.
Not a believer of second chances? Well, we’ll see!